Suggestions for Parents

Suggestions for Parents

Make learning a priority.

Your attitude toward school attendance, education and involvement in the school makes a strong and lasting impression on your child.  Show your child, by example, that learning is a priority.

Show interest in school work.

  • Talk about school each day.
  • Ask to see classwork.
  • Check Agenda Book nightly.
  • Ask your child to read aloud to you.
  • Read to and with your child from a variety of materials in your first language.
  • Encourage your child to discuss new ideas and opinions.
  • Show appreciation for good effort and hard work.

Be a good role model.

Lead by example.  Your children pay attention to everything you say and do, and they imitate your words and actions. Keep in mind how easily they are influenced. Be your best. Model behavior which positively shapes their character and values and equips them to live responsible, productive lives.

Enforce an appropriate consequence when your child does something wrong unacceptable. Many parents are hesitant to enforce consequences when their child breaks a rule, but consistency is essential.  Children thrive on consistency and reliability.

Encourage “personal best.”
Help your child by encouraging him or her to do their best in school and at home.  “Personal best” does not mean “perfect”, and learning is not the same as high grades.  Children, like adults, need the freedom to make mistakes and to learn from them. Be generous with praise. Observe your child carefully and comment on the things that are well done.  When you see an area that needs improvement, find a positive way to talk about it with your child. Try not to be overly critical or harsh with your child when noticing their weaknesses or deficits.

 Give chores to do at home. Assign your child tasks at home to help out.  Being part of a family unit means that children contribute to the well-being of the family and this means doing chores. Research has shown that being able to roll up your sleeves and pitch in, being able to do the unpleasant tasks without being asked, being interested in contributing one’s effort to the betterment of the whole, that’s what gets a person ahead in the working world.   Look out for at-risk behavior. Be aware of any behavior from your child that appears not normal, very different, or extreme.  Know what your child is doing in his or her free time and know the peers that your child is spending time with.  If your child is isolating himself and appears to not have friends, that is a concern. Other behaviors that are of concern include changes in mood, inability to control anger, unusual fascination with violence, excessive anxiety, agitation, hopelessness, and recklessness.  Contact your child’s guidance counselor if you see some of these behaviors and are very worried.

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